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How To Delete Your Social Media

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The best thing I did for myself in the past few years is to delete my social media accounts. It made me happier and more productive. I have a much better relationship with my phone, the Internet, and current events now. Plus, my screen time is limited and I spend way more time working on creative projects than doomscrolling social media apps.

I'm not the only one. Lately a lot of people have been asking me about deleting social media. So I thought I would share a few tips that made it easier for me to bite the bullet and pull the plug so I could keep my nose to the grindstone and...use more idioms.

Let's get into it:

STEP ONE: Take a look at your screen time on all devices and face the facts. You're wasting a lot of time on social media apps. So get rid of them. Delete the apps from your phone or iPad. Sign out of them on your computer, too.

Now when you think about logging on, you'll see that they aren't there any more or you have to enter your log-in information before you can access it. You want to put as many roadblocks between you and social media as possible.

STEP TWO: Start small. Try to string a few days together, then a full week. Before you know it a full month will have gone by and you'll start to realize that social media isn't as necessary as you thought it was.

By the time I permanently deleted my social media accounts I was only logging on once every few weeks. I'd only go on for a minute or two, before thinking to myself, "This is pointless, why did I get back on here?" Once you get to that point, deleting the accounts will be much easier.

STEP THREE: Back up your files. Just because you're deleting your accounts doesn't mean you have to delete all of your photos and videos, too. Each network has a feature that will allow you to download those important files and store them somewhere safe.

Take a moment to find the files worth keeping and add them to the cloud or a hard drive so you will always be able to access them later, when needed.

STEP FOUR: Let people know you're leaving. Or don't. It's really up to you. But no need to write a status about it - that's just virtue signalling. It's the online version of "I don't watch TV!" Seriously, who would write dozens and dozens of posts about getting off of social media?

Instead, let your closest friends and family know via text, email, or phone call. That way you've let them know directly that you still value those relationships and want to keep in touch and you've also gotten them used to the idea that they'll need to resort to other means to contact you.

STEP FIVE: Walk away. Delete your accounts and reclaim your life.

Some of the networks make it hard to delete your account, so here's a good guide from Wired on how to do it.


It may take a couple weeks or a couple months but sometime soon, not long after you've deleted your social media, you'll start seeing the world differently.

You'll find it weird that news organizations rely so heavily on Twitter or look strangely at people taking photos of their brunch for Instgram. You'll want to roll your eyes when you hear someone say "I saw on facebook that..." or you see a TikTok "star" getting interviewed on a talk show.

The world of social media is bizarre. It's all part of these companies ploy to keep you using their services. The more shocking, wild, and crazy stuff they put out the more you'll keep coming back for more. But once you get out you'll see it for what it is: a dangerous, addictive, and unnecessary part of life.

You may not be ready yet but here are a few things you should watch and read to help get you there:


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One Year Off Of Social Media

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A few weeks ago I reached a small milestone in my personal life, a day that came and went with no fanfare or pomp and circumstance. Still, I took a minute to appreciate the positive changes I’d seen in my life.

The occasion? It had been a full year since I deleted all of my social media accounts.

At the time, everyone said, “Don’t do that - you need social media to have a career in show business! There’s no other option!” For a long time, I believe them. I thought about deleting my accounts off and on for over a year from late 2018 to late 2019, then finally pulled the plug in December 2019.

It’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

So after a year, let’s debunk some of the biggest misconceptions about social media, marketing yourself, connecting with others, and building your fan base:

Myth #1 : It’s impossible to get work without social media

This is quite simply not true. It feels weird to say this since we’re in the middle of a pandemic and life is very hard for many people right now, but 2020 was one of the most successful years of my career thus far. I was able to bring entertainment to thousands of people in a virtual format, sell tickets to online shows, and work for major clients around the world. None of that work came from social media - it came from having a great product and letting other people spread the word.

When my accounts were active I never booked a single gig from social media. Everything came from other sources, yet I clung to the idea that having a visible presence online was imperative to a successful, sustainable career as an entertainer. I was wrong. You do not need social media to get work - there’s always another option.

Myth #2: You need to keep your social media up to date so you stay visible.

Yuck.

I can’t tell you how many hours I wasted brainstorming ideas for social media content, scheduling posts, and trying to stay current across all of my profiles. What a colossal waste of time.

If anything, social media creates the illusion of being busy. You’re updating it every day and getting constant interaction from likes, comments, retweets, and shares, so it must be helpful right? I don’t think so.

We’ve been tricked into thinking these things matter, so we spend time on our status updates instead of on our actual product. After I quit social media I suddenly found myself with a massive amount of extra time on my hands. At first I didn’t quite know how to handle it. It felt weird to not be doomscrolling at all hours of the day, but gradually my mind began to shift and I started asking myself, “What should I work on today?” I stopped consuming and started creating. Deleting social media let me reclaim my spare time for my own projects and I’ve seen a seismic shift in my creative output.

Myth #3: You need social media to keep in touch with people.

When I deleted social media I only had a couple of people reach out to ask me about it. Other than that, no one seemed to notice or even care.

Chances are you already stay in touch offline with the people that really matter in your life. The other 99% of the people on your social media feeds don’t matter.

Seriously, those people suck. You don’t need to know what that classmate you only spoke to once during freshman year had for breakfast this morning. You don’t need to know that your high school math teacher is an expert on QAnon now or that your coworker whose name you forgot just had a baby. It’s weird to snoop on the lives of so many strangers. And, it’s weird that people feel inclined to share so much.

Our social circles are supposed to be much, much smaller. You should probably really only be friends with a handful of people. As a result, there’s no need for social media to keep in touch with the people that truly matter. Now that I’m off those platforms I find myself texting, e-mailing, or - god forbid! - even calling my friends much, much more often.


Being off of social media has made me more productive, more creative, and just generally more happy on a daily basis. I have a lot more to say on this in the coming weeks but for now, if you’re interested in doing away with your social media, too, I highly recommend Jaron Lanier’s book “Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now”.


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Mark Toland is an award-winning mind reader and two-time TEDx Speaker. His mind blowing skills have been featured on NBC, ABC, FOX, CBS, NPR, WGN, Sirius XM, and more. Mark’s blog is a behind-the-scenes look at the life of a professional entertainer, full of creative thoughts for creative people. Sign up below so you’ll never miss a post.